Utter Autism

May 6, 2012

Speaking of Adrian…

It’s been over a month since Adrian moved into his new residence.  And for over a month now I’ve been thinking I need to write something about it.  But each time I tried I failed to find words.  There’s so much to say and I don’t know how to say it all.

This weekend is Adrian’s first visit home since he moved.  Somehow the familiar chaotic rhythm of having him here makes it easier to sit down and start typing. Go figure :P

In general, the move went very well.  I don’t know that we could have asked for better.   His first few days were a bit rough as he learned the new routines and how to communicate with the staff.  But that all worked itself out very quickly and he was soon back to the baseline he had here at home…  Perhaps even better in some ways.

I could go into detail about how well the staff deals with things when he does present them with a bit of a challenge or I could report how Adrian has won hearts by sticking up for the staff when other students present challenging behaviors.  I could tell how Adrian’s already eating and drinking things there – of his own free will – that he would never eat or drink here at home or how the staff tells us all about all the sign language Adrian’s taught them.  I could go on with the cute stories of how he and his new roommate connect over xbox games or explain how incredibly calm and happy he was when we went there and took him out for dinner.

But really, to me, the thing that says it all best is how Adrian behaves when we leave him there at his house.   In the past, when we’ve had issues at school, Adrian doesn’t hesitate to let me know things are not well there with his body language and vocalizations at drop off.

When we drop him back off at his house, he’s comfortable and happy.  He’s made himself at home.   He kisses me and vocalizes a ‘bye’ and then goes off to do his thing… not even caring to watch us leave.

So yeah, Adrian is doing great.  And that means the rest of us are doing pretty well too.  :)

April 1, 2012

But Why

“But why does Adrian have to go?  Why can’t he just live with us?”

That’s the question the 8 year old asked me yesterday.  I gave him the answer he’s heard me give a hundred times now, to practically everyone I talk to.

He needs more structure.  He’s wearing poor Mom out.  They’ll help him with his behavior and learning new things.

And all those things are true.  But as I thought about it, I realized there’s still lots of why questions under all those answers.

Why don’t I have enough time, energy and patience to keep this up?

Why is he built to need more structure, attention, activity and intervention than I can provide?

 

I don’t have answers for these.  Only God knows.  But honestly, I’m satisfied with that. :)

 

March 28, 2012

Time to Pack

When we go on a Disney Vacation, I start packing weeks… ok, ok – sometimes months in advance.  Yeah, it’s crazy.  I spend weeks packing for a trip that usually only last about a week.

Adrian goes to his new residence, potentially for years, starting next week.  I have yet to pack a single thing.

Part of it is all the red tape involved.  You sorta have to pretend like it’s not going to happen while you’re waiting for the next problem to crop up… or else suffer emotional nausea from the rollercoaster.  Even now, the last step (and last potential for a problem) happens less than 24 hours before his move in time.  As much as we don’t expect anything to go wrong, you just don’t know.

Part of it is that it’s just so hard to imagine that it’s really going to happen.  How do you pack your kid to go live somewhere else?  Sure, I’ve got a list that includes socks, underwear, pants and a coat… but no matter what I add to that packing list, it doesn’t seem right or complete.

Probably because it’s missing us, his family.

March 25, 2012

Moving.

After the usual red-tape roller coaster, we’ve got a move in date for Adrian at his new residential school less than 2 weeks from today.

I think my daughter said it best when she told me about a discussion she had with someone about Adrian’s move.  “Mom, I was smiling and crying at the same time.” Yeah, that about sums it up for all of us here.

It’s happy.  We really think Adrian will appreciate all the extra activity, attention and structure of his new home.  We think that having a new set of folks look at him through fresh eyes is going to mean gains in academic, self-care and behavioral skills.  We think that the change it’s going to make in our household, especially for the other kids, is going to be life changing.

But it’s also sad.  We will miss Adrian.  We feel badly that we couldn’t single-handedly provide everything he needs to be as successful as he can be.  It’s a decision you wish you never had to make, even if you know it’s the right one.

We realize that neither the smiles nor tears are going anywhere any time soon.  In fact, I’m fairly certain that this transition will be easier for Adrian than any of the rest of us.  It’s going to take us months to reimagine a different way of living – without Adrian here.

February 13, 2012

Moving To An Alternate Reality

It’s no secret that these past couple of years have been very difficult with Adrian.   But you’re a parent. You suck it up and deal with it.  So we did.

But then Adrian began asking to go to school… as soon as he got off the bus in the afternoon.  And he’d ask to go to school all evening. And first thing in the morning.  And all weekend long….

It sorta hit me all the sudden one day that his message wasn’t just ‘school’.  He craves the structure, the predictability, the schedules, the activity, the constant attention,…    I realized that we just can’t offer him what he needs here at home and it’s a big part of why things can get so rough around here.

So I began investigating residential schools.

Now, stop right there.   That’s such a simple statement to make and yet it was an unphathamable thought right up until my epiphany.  See, we’re do-it-yourself parents.  We’ve always been heavily involved in Adrian’s education – we don’t rely on the school to handle it all.  I’ve driven him to school myself for the past 13 years.  We homeschool our other 3 children.  We just aren’t in the habit of handing over our kids or any part of their education to anyone else.  No matter who else is involved, it’s still our responsibility.

This was a huge step for us.  After looking into it all, making some visits, speaking to some experts and thinking hard on the idea for a bit… we came to the conclusion that it was undeniably in Adrian’s best interest to pursue this.

Just a few short months later, the process is moving ahead.  There’s still the potential for a hiccup here or there, but chances are pretty good that in a few months time, Adrian will be moving to a residential situation at a school not too far away.

*GASP*

While I really don’t want to count chickens before they hatch, I’ve also come to the realization that I do need to spend some time considering what this all means – what things will look like and how we will live.

Because, folks, this will change EVERYTHING.  It’s nothing short of moving to an alternate reality…. and if I don’t spend some time getting used to the idea, I may very well have a breakdown when it happens.

December 31, 2011

Christmas Vacation?

What do you call the week between Christmas and New Years?  Well, we used to call it Christmas Vacation around here too.  But these days it’s not feeling much like a vacation at all.

I think it’s safe to say that Adrian and I both have had enough.   This break is no break for either of us.

He’s seeking structure constantly.  He wants to get up in the morning and go.  Preferably to school but if not, then somewhere. He’s bored with his computer by 10 am and resorts to annoying siblings and parents alike to entertain himself.  He walks around the house endlessly in an OCD loop.  Certain places he must walk backwards – we call it doing the moon walk.   Some areas must be rubbed up against or bumped.  This pinball machine doesn’t need quarters.

I’m dreaming of a day, just one, to sleep in.  And stay home and spend my time doing something other than feeding Adrian and showering Adrian and entertaining Adrian and driving Adrian and doing it all over and over and over.

He’s being medicated multiple times a day and put in the shower (our ‘safe-room’ when he’s out of control) multiple times a day. I must take him out for a drive at least once a day.  Some days when he’s particularly out of sorts and he’s already had more meds and another shower we’re driving multiple trips totalling an hour or two.

I’ve printed up a calendar and posted it on the wall to count down the days until school starts back up.  We’re both eyeing it carefully.  Tuesday can’t come soon enough for either of us.

November 17, 2011

Out of Breath

I’ve experienced labor twice.  First with Adrian and then with Zee.  The girls were taken by C-section a month before they were due.

Both times I experienced the same phenomenon.  My body doesn’t seem to know the rule is contraction, break, contraction break,…

For some reason, both times it geared up and repeatedly forgot the break.  I’d start out with single contractions and a break in between.  Within hours, it would switch to a peak-peak-break pattern.  Then on to peak-peak-peak-break.  And so on. 

I got up to 6 or 7 consecutive peaks with Adrian before I finally gave in to the epidural.  Not because I couldn’t handle the pain but because the lack of break meant I was just totally out of breath.  I remember thinking, “If only I could get a little break to catch my breath…”

That’s exactly how I feel now.  I just need a break to catch my breath…

Up until a few years ago when Adrian’s aggression really started to take over, I took regular breaks.  My husband is totally awesome and he’d take care of everything while I got away for a few days.   Sometimes I’d go to Florida to visit with my sister.  Sometimes I’d go to a peaceful church retreat.  Sometimes it was just a night out with a mom friend. 

It was all me time.  Time away from my responsibilities here at home.  Time to think, time to talk, time to pray, time to plan, …. just time.

The last time I was gone overnight was to visit my sister right before she had her first child.  He just turned 4 this past summer. 

These days I only leave Adrian at home with my husband when I have no other choice.  I worry the entire time I’m gone, watching the clock and constantly, imagining all that could be going wrong.   It’s not that I’m not paranoid.  I just know there’s a very good chance I’m going to come home to an overly anxious Adrian and a totally stressed husband and 3 siblings who wish they too could make it so Mom could get a break.  There will likely be tears, bruises and property damage to mark the occasion.  Going out without Adrian these days is no break at all.

We’re working on getting respite services so maybe we can get a night here or there without Adrian.   But it’s a long, slow process with no guarantees that it’ll work out in the end.

But I’m hopeful.  Cause I’m so ready for a break… just to catch my breath.

November 14, 2011

Making Family Understand

One of the more difficult parts of having an autistic child is that there are no guarantees that extended family will understand the situation. 

We often host family members here at our house.  Part of that is because we are lucky to have a spare room we can loan out.  The other part is the fact that Adrian limits our travel.  Family has to come to us or we don’t see them at all.

Recently I got a call from my grandfather though.   His 90th birthday is coming up and they’re having a big party, of course!   They want us to come.

If only it were that easy.

They live nearly 5 hours away.  We’ve had problems with Adrian on a 2 hour car trip.  And by problems, I mean him banging car windows, trying to escape the car, hurting others in the car, … ya know, really bad stuff.  The kinda stuff that makes it unsafe to drive but you don’t dare stop cause you’re just so desperate to get him home and end the nightmare.

Then there’s the fact that it would require an overnight stay.  Um, I would LOVE, LOVE, LOVE to be able to get away.  I love hotels.  I love vacations.  I love road trips (where the afore-mentioned nightmare doesn’t occur). 

But hello!  We can’t do hotels with Adrian.  We have tried.  We’re lucky they didn’t kick us out.  And that was long before his man-sized tantrums began.  Before the aggression, before the holes in the walls and destroyed property. We simply can’t take him to a hotel.

And then there’s the party.  Adrian can’t attend.  Not only would he be disruptive but he’d be miserable… and guess what his behavior is like when he’s miserable?  He can’t handle crowds or noise.  We can’t even take him to a restaurant without significant problems.

So where does that leave us?  Well, it’s not looking good.  But they really want us to come so they offer suggestions.  “Can’t Chris stay at the house with him while we’re at the party?”  “Can’t you can the other kids come?”

Um, no.  See, Adrian experiences a lot of anxiety when I’m gone.  And can you guess what his behavior is like when he’s anxious?  Every moment Adrian isn’t in school, I’m the primary caretaker.  I have to be. 

Couple weeks ago I left my husband home with Adrian for an hour and a half.  I came back and Adrian had put a new hole in the wall, broken a window screen and was physically fighting with my husband.  It’s not my husband’s fault.  Adrian’s anxiety when I’m not around pushes him over the edge.  My husband works and so he spends much less time caring for Adrian and can’t always see the signs and catch him before he’s gone over into tantrum land.

Besides all that, there’s some sorta testosteroni thing going on there.  Adrian tries to get my husband going.  He will do things purposefully that he knows will anger my husband (hitting me, for instance) and laugh, as if to say, “What you gonna do about it?”  It’s not a good plan to leave these two alone right now.

Again, I would LOVE, LOVE, LOVE to get away for a couple of days.  I spend a crazy amount of time daydreaming about just that.  But right now, it just can’t happen.  It’s not safe.

So that leaves us with what?  Well, Adrian isn’t going anywhere and since I have to be with him, I’m not going anywhere.  The only option left is to send my husband with the other 3.  Yeah, he’s married into this family, remember?  That alone makes it weird. 

Add to it that he’d be leaving me and Adrian home alone.  Again.  Yeah, I’m not gonna lie.  I cried last time that happened.  It’s really hard to have to be constantly left behind.

Most of this was explained to my grandfather and his wife over the course of the phone call.  They say they understand but you can feel it, they don’t really.  They want us to come and they can’t quite wrap their brains around the possibility that there is no way.

I love my grandfather and I wish things were different.  I want to be the granddaughter he wants me to be.  But I can’t do that and also be the mother Adrian needs me to be.

November 7, 2011

Changes Coming

Both my sister and my son are developmentally disabled.  I spend a lot of my time advocating for them both.  This  involves many conversations with their care providers each week.   I deal with dozens of people,  from multiple agencies in both the adult and child disability spheres.  Generally speaking, I think I’m pretty on top of things.

So when I happened across a notice on a parent-to-parent network message board talking about upcoming changes in disability services, I immediately went to check it out.  

And I was shocked to find that major changes are being implemented in the system in a few months time.  When did this happen and why am I just finding out about it?!

It’s no secret that what’s spurred these changes on is the potential to save the state money.  Of course, they’re doing whatever they can to push that under the rug and instead throw pretty words like “choice”, “freedom” and ”independence” at you.

Medicaid, which pays for the services both my son and sister receive, will no longer simply pay for those services.  These services include a residence with 24/7 care, day programming, medical and dental services (which are hard to find for the disabled), speech and occupational therapies (you recall that my son is completely non-verbal and will likely need to continue to perfect his communication skills for years to come), transportation, service coordination, behavioral interventions, psychiatric care, … and the list goes on.

As I understand it, the system will become a ‘managed care’ system (think HMO).  So now Medicaid will ‘assess’ every disabled person and assign them a dollar amount.   They pass that dollar amount to an approved agency who then has to figure out how to provide ALL the services with that amount of money. 

To save more money, they’ll be pushing for the least amount of support possible.  They’re calling this freedom, choice and independence.  This will include moving more towards living at home or in less supportive residential situations.  It means doing away with as many ‘institutional’ and structured day programs as possible and getting them ‘into the community’ as much as possible.

Obviously, with 2 family members directly affected by these changes, I had many questions.  Fortunately I found out about the whole plan right before Commissioner Burke had a live chat on the subject.  You can find the transcript here.

So let’s look at what I found to be some of the more telling questions and answers.

First, it seems I’m not the only one who feels blindsided by all this:

Submitted by Holly on Sat, 10/22/2011 – 8:42am

when and where will advance information be posted for families to have input to Medicaid 1115 waiver planning? I only learned of this web chat on 10/21, and some families may be unable to participate due to religious observances. Thank you.
Submitted by Courtney Burke on Sat, 10/22/2011 – 9:14am

Holly, it’s great to hear that you want to get involved. We are making the waiver process as public as possible. You can learn what has happened so far at http://www.opwdd.ny.gov/2011_waiver/index.jsp. Additionally, we have five public presentations occurring over the next few weeks, as well as many future events in the works. The information about those events can also be found on the waiver website. You can also sign up to receive alerts via email.

Of the 24 questions she answered, 3 were asking where, when and how to get information and give input on the system being developed.   Clearly their efforts to ‘make the process public’ has failed.  Once I found out I immediately contacted some of the service providers we work with.  THEY don’t even know.

But more disconcerting was what those implementing this new structure don’t know yet. 

Submitted by Carol on Sat, 10/22/2011 – 9:03am

Giving people with developmental disabilities more freedom, choice and independence sounds like a wonderful goal. However, those of us who have family members with these disabilities understand that the nature of their disability means that giving them this is often NOT what is in their best interest. By definition, they have a inability to think, reason and function as a typical adult. They are developmentally not able to make good choices about their own living arrangements, goals and expectations for life. I’m one of many people with a loved one who is higher functioning and as such, I’ve not gone through the extensive work and expense to become her legal guardian. What safeguards will be in place to be certain that she will not be talked into a ‘less restrictive’ environment she can not handle? For people without a legal guardian, who will be determining what freedoms and choices a particular individual can really handle? How will crisis situations be handled if/when developmentally disabled adults end up in situations with more freedom and independence than they can handle?
Submitted by Courtney Burke on Sat, 10/22/2011 – 9:28am

Great question. Because the waiver is still being designed, we are considering these very issues. A primary goal of the 1115 waiver is to evaluate each individual’s abilities to determine the most appropriate level of services. This should lead to individuals having better access to more integrated lives. We are aware that we need to make sure the waiver also provides appropriate safeguards for crisis situations. People who conduct assessments will be properly trained on new assessment tools that will better determine what supports individuals need.

Don’t worry, they’re ‘considering these very issues’!  Um, yeah.  Watch the videos they’re putting out to promote these changes. They’re ready to pull the trigger on the beginning stages of this in a few months time but they’ve not figured out the answer to this beyond ‘properly trained’ people and ‘new assessment tools’.  That’s just scary to me.

Another thing they’re still working out is how to make the funding of this work.

How do we make sure that nedded resouces go dircetly to service provision and don’t just end up in the pockets of program administrators? Greater transparancy is needed.
Submitted by Courtney Burke on Sat, 10/22/2011 – 9:22am

I absolutely agree that greater transparency is needed. We have begun to make information publicly available on our website about nonprofit providers and their performance. We will be rolling out additional information about the quality of services for providers in the coming months, as well as information about use of resources. In addition, I am participating in the Governor’s task force on executive compensation for nonprofits, which is looking system wide at their use of Medicaid dollars.

 I’m not only worried that the dollars going to the agency could end up eaten up by administration costs.  I’m also worried about how these agencies will deal with being short the funds to provide all the services.  They may be non-profit, but the ‘profit’ becomes whatever they can ‘save’ in money not spent.  They will be highly motivated to provide the least amount of services.  The state is banking on it.

Thank you for speaking with us this morning. I am the mother of a seventeen-year-old son with moderate/severe autism and I am employed full time by one of your provider agencies as well. I’ve been told by a Trustee of another provider agency that, despite the plethora of information you’ve disseminated to the contrary, when April 1st arrives, all stakeholders, not just those who choose to participate in a DISCO pilot, will provide and receive services under their regional DISCO. In other words, all agencies will lose their rates as of April 1st and be will be mandated to join a DISCO in order to continue providing services. Can you please state whether this is true, and if it is true what specific plans are in place to ensure continuity and availability of services. It’s hard for this mother to envision provider agencies losing their rates for a presumably much lower rate under the DISCO, without jeopardizing their fiscal sustainability and ability to serve their clientele and expand to meet the needs of the tsunami of children aging out of the educational system. Thanks again for your time.

Submitted by Courtney Burke on Sat, 10/22/2011 – 9:06am

First of all, we aren’t certain the waiver will definitely begin on April. Second, a demonstration period will happen first, so not everybody will be participating in demonstrations in the first year. Third, the purpose of the demonstrations is to see how well a new rate setting process works well and where it’s shortcoming are.

 I’m disappointed that she didn’t really answer a question here.  She’s not “certain the waiver will definitely begin on April.”  So what?  It’s probable?  Not probable?  When will you know and what determines if it will happen or not?  Does anyone know?

Then the demonstration period will happen first.  But not ‘everyone’ will be participating.  Of course, that could mean most everyone would be participating or only a few would be.  Which is it?  And more importantly, what say will the disabled and their advocates have in participating or not?   Cause that seems kinda key when you’re doing it to find the shortcomings.  I don’t want to be the guinea pig.

So my next concern is the push towards employment.  I’m not saying this is a bad thing.  It may be a very good thing for some individuals.  My problem is that they seem to really be missing some realism in their plan here.

Submitted by Marisa Oni on Sat, 10/22/2011 – 8:43am

How does OPWDD plan to promote employment for people with disabilities
Submitted by Courtney Burke on Sat, 10/22/2011 – 9:38am

Employment is a major priority of the agency. We are part of a national network that plans to double the number of individuals in our system who work – from about 9,000 to 18,000 people. This coming week OPWDD will hold its annual Works For Me awards celebration, honoring the great businesses who hire individuals with developmental disabilities and their employees. Information about the event can be found online at http://www.opwdd.ny.gov/news/new_opportunities.jsp We are looking to strengthen partnerships with private businesses and other state agencies to ensure individuals have the skills they need to successfully maintain employment.

 With the current unemployment rates and tons of typical adults unable to find work, how on earth do they think the occasional pat on the back is going to encourage employers to hire disabled people who were previously unable to secure employment? And they’re going to “ensure individuals have the skills they need to successfully maintain employment.”  Great.  Um, how do you do that?   Will there be a ceremony to hand them out their skills and send them on their way?  Most of the disabled folks I know would love to be employed.  They just don’t have the skills to be competitive in today’s job market and they likely never will.  That’s a pretty common thing among the developmentally disabled. 

Ironically, with all she doesn’t know, Commissioner Burke felt perfectly qualified to answer this question:

Submitted by Scott on Sat, 10/22/2011 – 8:48am

Why are autism rates increasing?
Submitted by Courtney Burke on Sat, 10/22/2011 – 9:17am

I believe it is not that the rate of autism is increasing, but diagnosis. Like many developmental disabilities, there has been a historical lack of understanding and knowledge. As society becomes more aware, more diagnosis are occurring which better sets us up to provide individuals and families with the supports and services they need.

Whoa!  Did she just arrive at this party?  Does she have no clue this is a much contested point of view?!  The fact that she thinks she knows the answer to this doesn’t inspire much confidence in her ability to understand and serve this community. 

I get that the state wants to save money.  I get that they’re reacting to some bad press about some bad things that happened on their watch.  What I don’t get is if they have any clue what these changes will mean for the developmentally disabled and their advocates.  What will really happen, not just all the pretty words and idealized ‘outcomes’. 

I have a sinking feeling Commissioner Burke doesn’t have a loved one she has to worry over being re-assessed.   She doesn’t have a son who needs the more structured, institutional settings to be safe.  She doesn’t get how incredibly difficult it is to advocate for the developmentally disabled even with support.  Like so much about her plan, she just doesn’t know.

I hope she knows how to listen…

October 19, 2011

Coconut Flour Recipes

Filed under: Diets, Specific Carbohydrate Diet (SCD) — Carol @ 3:45 pm

I did the ‘subscribe’ thing over on Amazon.com to get shipments of coconut flour automatically sent to us.  Unfortunately, it seems I need to ask for shipments less often.  I’ve got 5 packages of coconut flour in my freezer now.  Yikes!

The nice thing about the coconut flour is that you don’t use very much of it when you’re baking.  Most recipes only call for a half to 3/4 cup to make a full cake.  That means that 5 packages in my freezer will go a looooong way.

So I thought I’d share a few of our favorite ways to use it.

Vanilla Coconut Cookies (found HERE)

4 eggs
1/2 cup honey
1/2 cup solid coconut oil 
1 1/2 tsp vanilla
1 tsp lemon juice
1/2 tsp baking soda
3/4 cup coconut flour
1/4 tsp sea salt
 
The first time we made these the vanilla seemed rather boring so we sniffed through the spice drawer till we happened upon the almond extract.  We added less vanilla than was called for and a bit of the almond extract.  The rest of the family loved it but Adrian, not so much.   So the next time we made it we added cinnamon.  Everyone enjoyed that.   Other options?  Lemon or orange extract, coconut flakes, diced apple and cinnamon, squash or pumpkin, ginger and cloves…..
 
 
 
Flatbread (found on a website that has since expired)
 
WET INGREDIENTS:
12 eggs
¾ C oil
¼ C coconut milk
1t lemon juice

DRY INGREDIENTS:
1 C coconut flour
1 C almond flour
1 t baking soda
1 t salt

Bake it in a pan lined with parchment.  You want it to be about an inch thick.  A 11″x 15″x 2″ pan works perfectly for me. I shared this recipe before.  It’s the one we use to make yummy french toast sticks:)
 
 
 
Cinnamon Bun Muffins (found HERE)

Muffin Ingredients (makes about 8 muffins)

  • 1/2 cup of coconut flour
  • 1/4 teaspoon of baking soda
  • 1/4 teaspoon of sea salt
  • 4 eggs
  • 1/3 cup of yogurt
  • 1/2 cup of honey (or other sweetener)

Cinnamon Topping Ingredients

  • 2 tablespoons of ground cinnamon
  • 4 tablespoons of honey (or other sweetener)
  • 2 tablespoons of unsalted butter, melted (ghee or coconut oil will work too)
  • 1/4 cup of chopped walnuts (optional; or other nut)

Drip the topping over the muffin (or in my case, over the cake) before you bake.

And, of course, our Lemon Cake (adapted from this)

6 eggs
1/4 cup lemon juice
1/2 cup honey
1 tsp vanilla
1/4 cup plain yogurt
3/4 cup coconut flour
1 tsp baking soda
1 tsp lemon extract
1/2 tsp sea salt

You may have noticed I failed to include all the how-tos on all these recipes.  Um, yeah.  It’s mostly cause I’m not terribly good at following directions in the kitchen.   I generally cook all these things in the oven at the same time, on the same temperature until they’re ‘done’.   The original recipes may or may not contain instructions to mix wet and dry separately.  Ditto on the not-following-directions-in-the-kitchen.  Everything goes into my Kitchen Aid mixer in whatever order I feel like throwing it in.  My cooking hasn’t killed anyone…. yet.  :P   

But feel free to follow all the normal baking conventions if that floats your boat :)

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