I recently cleaned out the file cabinets and pulled out the collection of notebooks used to communicate with Adrian’s classrooms through the years. I can’t really think of a good reason to keep them around at this point. It’s not terribly practical or helpful to know what the problem du jour was back in 1999.
However, before I part with them forever, I plan to read through them one last time. It seems like a good idea to record some of highlights here while I do that. I’d like to keep some of the memories of what life was like back then. And perhaps some who read these will find it helpful to them as they go through similar things. If nothing else, they can know it’s all survivable. 😀
Adrian was diagnosed with autism in the spring of 1999 when he was just over 2 years old. He immediately started attending a special ed preschool where he received speech and occupational therapies. My twin daughters at the time were 6 months old. Yes, I really had my hands full!
The first thing I saw in the notebook from that first year was the fact that they used PECS with Adrian from that first day. I sent in pictures for chicken nuggets, yogurt and family members. He picked up the use of them quickly. Being reminded of how successful he was with these even back then makes me feel more than ever that PECS really are a old and babyish method to be using with a grown man. Thankfully, in recent years most of the staff working with him have moved away from using them.
November 1999 saw me asking staff at the school questions like…
Bee has picked up Adrian’s humming while eating habit. Ahhhh! How do we stop this insanity?
Adrian has been taking his clothes and diaper off lately. Do you have any suggestions about how to stop this? (The duct tape only slows him down)
LOL Oh, to be able to laugh about these things today!
Bee saw her older brother loudly humming while he ate and thought it was the way eating was done. If I recall, we had to constantly interrupt her copycat behavior until she finally stopped. Simply exhausting for us and very confusing for her!
And duct tape on the diaper! I’d completely forgotten about that one. How many parents keep duct tape in the diaper caddy next to the diaper cream and wipes?! Oh but we did. We had to.
The teacher wrote back that onsies or overalls might slow him down… but I had to tell her that we’d already tried both of those. He was able to take the diaper off from underneath these types of clothing, leaving the clothing in tact so you didn’t know he wasn’t wearing his diaper until he’d peed his pants. Thus, the duct tape solution.
The stripping behavior has stayed with us for many years. I recall once when Adrian was 6 and still wearing diapers that he took the diaper off and shredded it. Ever wonder what the insides of those diapers look like? I, unfortunately, can tell you. I walked into his room and there was yellow ‘snow’ everywhere. We finally got him toilet trained shortly after that incident.